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Addictive relationships

Addictive relationships

  Your lights are on, but you’re not home Your mind is not your own Your heart sweats, your body shakes Another kiss is what it takes Addicted to Love – Robert Palmer Healthy relationships require balance, particularly when it comes to autonomy and...
Stop Your Inner Critic!

Stop Your Inner Critic!

I often tell clients that all of us hear voices – not just one, but a veritable committee meeting going on inside our heads.  A prominent voice at the conference table is often given to our inner critic — that annoying, troubling, undermining voice that...
The Tyranny of Buffness

The Tyranny of Buffness

Gay men face considerable pressure to conform to an impossible standard of physical flawlessness.  This pressure causes much anxiety and reduced self-esteem.  A recent article in The Atlantic called “The Tyranny of Buffness” explores the theme and is worth a read. It...
Make an argument worse in two words

Make an argument worse in two words

When a couple approaches me for relationship counseling, nine times out of ten they mention trouble communicating as a source of distress between them.  We easily fall into traps that allow communication to become an argument.  Instead of finding a way to move things...