by John Ballew | Sep 25, 2013 | Dating and single life, Relationships
I was recently interviewed by Brian Rzepczynski, MSW – The Gay Love Coach – on the topic “Magnetic Relationships: When Positive and Negative Meet & Mate.” You can listen by clicking here. Additional thoughts on the topic are here. 
by John Ballew | Sep 13, 2013 | Dating and single life, Relationships
Manuel (not his real name) is healthy and happy and living well with HIV. When he found out he was positive several years ago, he decided it would keep things simple if he only dated other poz guys. He soon found out that his heart didn’t share that agenda. “I’ve... 
by John Ballew | Aug 22, 2013 | Dating and single life
Dating often wears people out. Technology has made hooking-up a very efficient proposition. By contrast, technology has commercialized the search for a date without necessarily making it easier to find a mate. This has been profitable for websites like match.com. ... 
by John Ballew | Jan 22, 2013 | Dating and single life, Psychotherapy
Psychotherapists sometimes have fantasies of finding just the right match for clients — particularly clients they like, I suspect. An article in the New York Times does a pretty good job of sharing one therapist’s thoughts on the subject. Dating is... 
by John Ballew | Sep 29, 2012 | Emotional health, Overcoming anxiety, single life, Uncategorized
Feeling lonely is one of life’s more unpleasant experiences. Like most other mammals, we find being part of a pair or a pack a way that our bodies and emotions regulate themselves. When we don’t have access to others for one reason or another, we are more prone to... 
by John Ballew | Sep 25, 2012 | Dating and single life, ending a relationship, Technology
Sometimes a relationship comes in for a soft landing: a gentle parting of ways after a more or less mutual decision that the relationship isn’t going anywhere. But there are breakups that are anything but “soft.” Those are the ones where the feelings are intense,...