by John Ballew | Jan 9, 2014 | Gay men's sexuality, Spirituality and religion, Uncategorized
According to Joe.My.God., this short film has played in 50 film festivals. I thought it perfectly captured a bit of the experience of coming out as an adolescent. It brought back lots of memories, even for those of us who grew up... 
by John Ballew | Sep 1, 2013 | Emotional health, Gay men's sexuality
Gay men face considerable pressure to conform to an impossible standard of physical flawlessness. This pressure causes much anxiety and reduced self-esteem. A recent article in The Atlantic called “The Tyranny of Buffness” explores the theme and is worth a read. It... 
by John Ballew | Jun 12, 2012 | Gay men's sexuality, Health issues, midlife
I’ve written before that gay men are prone to body image problems. Many gay men seem to have the issues often associated with 16 year old girls: imagined flaws not visible to others, hypervigilence about weight and muscle tone, snarkiness and judgmental attitudes... 
by John Ballew | Mar 21, 2012 | Gay men's sexuality, sexual problems, sexuality, Uncategorized
What’s sexually normal? That’s a question most of us ask ourselves at one point or another. Small wonder; our society doesn’t make it easy to find basic information, even though talk about sex is everywhere. Funny how “normal” is just another word for “average.” ... 
by John Ballew | Mar 11, 2012 | Emotional health, Gay men's sexuality
It is getting easier all the time to live an openly gay life. So why are a significant number of gay men still in the closet in 2012? Life is getting better for many of us. Compared with even 10 years ago, our relationships are more likely to be recognized... by John Ballew | Mar 9, 2012 | Emotional health, Gay men's sexuality
I’ll be appearing on TruTV’s In Session today between noon and 1 pm EST giving insight into the thinking of Tyler Clementi and M.B., the closeted gay man with whom he was videotaped just prior to Tyler’s jumping off the George Washington Bridge in...